Teresa’s Story

When I was expecting my first child, my husband, who already has three children, was nowhere to be found on the day our baby was born. As my water broke and I went into labor, he sent me a text saying, “It’s my son’s first football game. I promised I’d be there. Our newborn won’t remember this day anyway.”

In my frustration, I told him not to come back home. For three days, he didn’t show up. Concerned, I made my way to his ex-partner’s house, where he had been staying in the guest room as he felt unwelcome at home.

What infuriated me even more was when she said, “Well, your husband already has three kids, so this fourth one isn’t as big of a deal for him as it is for you.” She added, “His first family will always be more important to him, and that’s just how things work.”

Speechless and overwhelmed, I left. The combination of my husband’s actions and his ex’s remarks has pushed me to seriously consider a divorce.

Finally, four days after our child’s birth, he came to meet his daughter. I know he’s capable of being a loving and committed father, but his recent behavior has left me in shock.

What should I do?